Description: Marriage, Divorce, And Remarriage Myth #2 - I Repented Of My Divorce So I Can Remarry
There are many myths that people have come up with about marriage, divorce and remarriage. In this teaching series a variety of myths will be explored and corrected by the Scripture.
Brother Hicks Speaking: [Scripture Shows On Screen:] For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death. - 2 Corinthians 7:10
Yes, you have the sorrow of this world, and unfortunately that is what most people have, they have the sorrow of this world. You hear them talk about, “Well, I am divorced, but I repented of it and got remarried.” You cannot [have] repented of a divorce if you then get remarried, because the very act of remarriage PROVES that you did not repent of the divorce.
I have given this example a number of times, but it still works. If a man robs a bank, and he takes the money and says, “I am repenting of robbing this bank,” can he then go and spend the money “freely in the Lord,” “Praise God I have all this money now that I repented.” No, of course not! No one that knows God would dare suggest such a thing. They would all say, “You have to give the money back. If you have truly repented, if you have truly changed your mind about that sin, [then] you have to give that money back. You cannot keep it. Keeping it proves you did not repent.” And so it is the same with divorce. If you remarry after a divorce you prove with 100% certainty that you have not repented of the divorce, because if you changed your mind about the divorce you COULD NOT remarry. You would either remain single or you would try to get reconciled to your spouse (1 Corinthians 7:11), because you changed your mind about divorce. But you didn’t change your mind about divorce at all, did you? You didn’t forsake that sin, [rather] you wanted to benefit from it, so you wanted to remarry. You cannot remarry if you truly repented of your divorce. That needs to be understood.
If you have repented of an act you MUST cease from it. You must try to resolve it as best as you possibly can. There are some acts that you may have committed that there is no way of resolving, there is no way of making them right, but you do whatever you possibly can. To not do whatever you possibly can shows that you have not repented.It is a glorious thing when you see someone who was a vile sinner come to salvation and all they want to do is make things right. It is such clear evidence of true salvation, of the true grace of God in their lives, because they want to make things right. I have had people contact me and say, “I stole $5 from this person [before salvation] and I do not know where they live. How do I get it back to them? What should I do?” They want to make things right. Not because they are worried, “I am not going to be saved if I don’t do this.” It is not even about that. It is not that selfish of a motive. It is a motive of true repentance. They have godly sorrow. So they want to make it right, they do not want to live in the pleasures of that sin. They want to make it right.